Monday, July 8, 2019

FosterKidsUnite, Inc.: Drug Addiction and Foster Care

FosterKidsUnite, Inc.: Drug Addiction and Foster Care: Hi blog family! Its July 8th already! Time is ticking and so much to do!  I challenge you to be bigger, better, smarter than your pa...

Drug Addiction and Foster Care

Hi blog family!

Its July 8th already! Time is ticking and so much to do!

 I challenge you to be bigger, better, smarter than your parents. They were pretty smart but I am sure, there are things, that could be changed in any family with addiction; Delete the people in the families that have caused no return grief; rape, abuse...anything else can be forgiven. We must do better than your grandma and great-grandma, (we not as resilient but we can create a new way of doing the bad things that were passed down generations, like ignoring abuse, accepting your kids watching abuse, walking away due to mental illness, the sickness must stop here.
Make wiser choices, like to stay away from drugs.

I was thinking about drug addiction today and the role it plays on everyone in the family, but especially, the kids.

I was born a heroin addicted baby.  Many addicts feel that if a counselor has not done drugs like them, they cannot help them because they did not go through what they went through. I am here to say, that is far from the truth.
When a parent that lives in the same house as a child wakes up shaking or "dope sick", it is producing signals to the child to also feel sick", stomach in knots from not knowing if you are going to die, or leave them alone again, with no lights, no food no running water.
 Until that parents gets their fix, that child is going through the same physical and mental gymnastics as the addict. Sad part is they usually end up attracting someone they can "take care of", as addict children often end up taking care of the addicts, their siblings or worse, themselves, often responsibilities of  finding food, instead of making mud pies, going into shady buildings, being in the company of shady people, who often pray on children of addicts, and may sometimes use children as a form of payment, (yes, people have sold their babies to pimps, dealer, all to get high), a few found out, after DNA test, others, will never know, as they were babies, just like I dont remember the first time I went into foster care as a toddler.

Drug addiction takes mothers to places even a rat won't go. Drug addiction brings not only the addict to their knees but the innocent child, who never gets a chance to just be a kid. Alcohol abuse & drug addiction together wreak havoc on families, look at our foster care system and how many babies, kids and teens are being affected by lack of a mom or dad!
 It's good that grandma and auntie "raise you", if momma and poppa can't do it,  but nothing says "you left me" more than NOT being raised with the lady that birthed you! We understand Mr. Heroin and Jack Daniels are powerful, leaving its victims powerless. So go, get the help you need, take as long as you need, I am here waiting.
We must start being responsible for the lives we make, for the hearts that we made beat, for the minds we as parents, we're supposed to develop.

We must stop hurting our children and thinking they will grow to be fine law-abiding adults without proper love, nourishment, and mental stimulation.
We are minimal without our "tribe"; This tribe should be there to pick us up when we fall and dust us off when we need to be put back in line.
The tribe and its leader, mom, lets you know that we are a strong people who made it thus far, nothing and no one can stop us, but drugs, well, that's another story, one in which no one wants to be in, because it never ends well, and it's usually starring YOU.

 We must be told we are strong, resilient, beautiful, smart and able. We must be loved by the families we came from. Nothing like knowing the tribe LOVES you and are willing to ride or die for you, not leave you and never come back.
Fostering is better than group home living but, it will never replace mom, dad or family. So family, when you can, step up and step into your family members' life.
Children born to addicts that don't come back, lack in the area of; confidence, love, self-care. Not to say they cannot grow to be fine adults, I managed,  many others have figured out how to live on life's terms, without birth family.
Many have learned to seek help, through therapy.  Therapy is for anyone willing to work, and all foster youth should seek out a great therapist to start the healing process. Abandonment, neglect and abuse lead to trauma but you always miss MOTHER"S love.

Addiction & foster care usually ends with adoption or aging out of foster care on your own, figuring out life, as you go along, suicide, dropping out of school, anxiety, PTSD, legal issues, rehabs. Is it fair that an innocent child must endure the pain that goes with addiction? Is it fair to pass on your trauma to your child? What can you do today, to ensure a safer future for foster youth.

Monday, April 8, 2019

Koffee - Toast (Lyrics) giving thanks for little things

to get more we must always have gratitude, give thanks to the creator every morning you wake!


Save the Date: May 30th

Mount Kisco Public Library

Foster Care Awareness Month Event

The Robert Cooper Memorial Scholarship will be awarded to aged-out foster youth

"Citizen of Change Award" given to a former fox lane middle school teacher

Guest Speaker: Lisa Peck Goldberg "The ABC's of Foster Adoption"

Time: 4-5 food reception 5-7 event

100 E. Main St 2nd floor FREE TO THE PUBLIC

*if you would like to have a table or sponsor us please contact: